You?ve sent them right over the edge. So what?s a nice, well-meaning kid supposed to do? How about limiting his or her normal sense of independence?
Accommodation or compliance is very likely to cause you to suffer profoundly if your submissive behavior continues for the rest of your life. You?ll hate yourself for not asserting yourself and then you?ll find that people close to you can?t stand you for the very same reason. Maybe you?ll try to suppress it and it just comes out anyway. Every time you come in late for a meeting, stubbornly disagree with everyone around you, or even do an assignment with begrudging defiance, you?re revealing your resentment of your authoritarian parent.
Excerpted from
Self-Help for Smarties: Secret Success Codes for Weight Loss, Love, Career and Parenting
by Irwin Gootnick, M.D. (Penmarin Books, May 2006)..
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